Why do people sit around in boredom to meditate and waste time ?

Since the reader “IamAmonkeyMindAnd2Impatient2sitQuiet” defined meditation as “Taking care of life, well being, soul, body, and loved ones in order to be in a meditative state” … “not about closing your eyes and focus on breath”.

I would like to clarify quickly that I think we should distinguish between taking care of life (which certainly is noble, but something different), and calming our minds.

I actually think that many gurus, like the guy who called himself Osho did exploit that weakness in people and by giving them absolution not to have to sit quiet and therewith got rich people (usually the ones who run around a lot), excited to donate to him millions. That doesn’t make it right for me, to say that everything we do with passion would be meditation.

  1. In my opinion we should distinguish between calming our mind and an ethical lifestyle in awareness.
    Calming our mind is to slowly let brainwaves calm down from Horse-Gamma to Wisdom-Trance-Delta.
source: https://lucid.me/blog/5-brainwaves-delta-theta-alpha-beta-gamma/

2. Then there is this guy who explains difficulties meditating in a nice way us normal people can relate to, and you can see around 8 minutes that he distinguishes meditation clearly from ethics etc…

3. And finally: Here is how a wise guy helps us to get started:
(Don’t worry ADHD-millenials: I selected only 3 1/2 minutes of that for you).

Ah and one last tip

Everything thinks that we could start with that once we get old and only can sit around.
That doesn’t work, because senile people don’t have the power to focus anymore.
You see that in old people who look at the TV without actively engaging in the movie.
They have the time to watch TV, and lack the power to be impatient, but they don’t have the mind for it anymore.

It’s a long way, so start as early as you can, because it takes decades to build up the patience and focus.

Vivekananda put it in funny terms here:

How hard it is to control the mind! Well has it been compared to the maddened monkey. There was a monkey, restless by his own nature, as all monkeys are. As if that were not enough some one made him drink freely of wine, so that he became still more restless. Then a scorpion stung him. When a man is stung by a scorpion, he jumps about for a whole day; so the poor monkey found his condition worse than ever. To complete his misery a demon entered into him. What language can describe the uncontrollable restlessness of that monkey? The human mind is like that monkey, incessantly active by its own nature; then it becomes drunk with the wine of desire, thus increasing its turbulence. After desire takes possession comes the sting of the scorpion of jealousy at the success of others, and last of all the demon of pride enters the mind, making it think itself of all importance. How hard to control such a mind!

4 Replies to “Why do people sit around in boredom to meditate and waste time ?”

  1. IMO just deciding you are going to sit down and ‘meditate” for some time is fruitless, and you will lose your enthusiasm quickly. Structured meditations with a defined process and time limits (3-5-11-22-31min) give us a perceivable goal to go for. SCK is one good example but maybe not for beginners. There are lots of others with more simple structure in Kundalini.

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    1. You raise a good point there.
      I started with zen and found it tremendously boring and a kind of oxymoron to try not to think anything.
      Years later a Vietnamese Buddhist monk explained that it is more about not feeding the thought with consequential thoughts. That helped.
      Then I observe that there seems to be some kind of forced humbleness in Buddhists, just as I see it in Christians and religions in general – always to praise the lord in devotion assuming that we are ‘sinners’ or doing wrong.
      And because those people deny themselves their right to impatience or to rebel in general, they then impose their standards they did suffer for so much to others which then does (more in the Japanese direction) create an atmosphere of blame and guilt or deflection of own stuff.

      The yoga atmosphere is different – however, I also just noticed that this also is some kind of role some put on, wearing white and a turban etc, which undoubtedly makes it much easier to deal with, but somehow still avoids looking into ones own mirror of the self.
      As it seems to me ulitmately it comes down to self-realisation and there are many levels which people seem to subscribe to.

      And since you are here, I would like to let you know what I just wrote into the new SCK-course 3.0 which does contain 23 articles about all aspects in detail:
      If you have done it since 5 years, your half an hour is perfect, and thereafter add 1 minute every 2 months, or even simpler 6 minutes every year to your practice, because this way you increase your meditation time by a virtual second each day.
      I wish I would have done it that way, because I tried and failed for 16 years and now am catching up and all the psychological stuff comes up I could have cleared way before.
      It is worth increasing it slowly, because when you do it longer, things do change in the brain.

      Your main problem may be your wife not doing SCK, and therefore having to wait for you throughout this time.
      Another reader solved it by explaining to her that she should be happy that he has this kind of hobby instead of some of the destructive ones men at times have. That convinced her.

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